Never excuse your behavior and there are times we have to listen to those that we have robbed and cheated, even when it sounds angry. This is a part of the healing process and if you are not ready to deal with those issues then you are not equipped to deal with your past or your accountability over the damage that was done. I pray for those that are not willing to understand or be honest.
While we know that we are supposed to honor our father and mother, very
close to that passage it also states that Father's do not provoke your son's to
wrath. When dealing with these situations; until there is a breakthrough there
is not one that can demand respect when they are not fully facing the damage of
the hurt. Part of our accountability is taking responsibility over what we have
done, and it doesn't mean disregarding those that we have harmed or playing it
off. This will only accumulate more rage and resentment. Those that show no remorse for damaging one’s
life have not faced the truth. They need help to come to terms with what their
actions have caused. Anger is DANGER when left to itself.
Most of what someone wants is honesty, and an
understanding of what was done to them. It is much easier for forgiveness to
happen this way in families and relationships.
Children respect protection from
their parents, and when protection has
been severed throughout their lives, rage builds and confusion over what
happened to them is overwhelming. This happens many times in sexual abuse cases,
as well as a parent that has continued to use drugs with their child. Injustice creates anger and feelings that
were stolen from them in innocence. Every child wishes they could do what they
want but in reality they grow up, and if they are allowed to destroy themselves
with a parent's consent or participation, they later realize how much protection
they truly needed while wondering how this could happen to them. We were never
meant to be our children's friends, or include them in situations that could
ruin their lives, or even kill them.
There
are many unanswered questions of why they were violated, and blame that person
when they become addicted to sex or drugs. This is a horrible battle of one
moving through this in their recovery process, and is a step towards healing.
It is a long road to acceptance, and learning to forgive those that hurt us
unjustly. Anger is part of it, and
families that wish to make amends cannot do this without accountability for
their actions. There is no covering or mask that God does not witness, and
while many people seek God while searching for answers, this one thing cannot
be skipped over. The injury has to heal and sometimes if there is no
accountability, the person must deal with that anger alone. Through the process
of forgiveness and restoration we must look to God, even when others fail us or
remain to stay as they are. We have no control and in our healing we have to
give that anger over to God or we self-destruct. Some things are too hard for
us alone, but with God all things are possible. Prayers!
Denial is spiritual blindness that leads to deception. If you walk in spiritual blindness, you will
never be able to see where you are going, or clearly hear God’s voice in your
life. This is not a blame game, or a
post to trample anyone with condemnation; it is a heart cry for the innocence
lost. I will speak up for those that
cannot speak, and my words will trust in the Holy Spirit to heal and restore
brokenness. My prayers will flood like a
river into the utter most parts of those secret places where there is no
voice. It is for a little girl and boy
that have carried this burden for way to long.
It is for the man or woman that cannot face up to their wrongs. I pray transformation and reconciliation
into the process of healing and recovery.
May God guide you and be with you on a journey towards freedom and
restoration. There is nothing that
cannot be forgiven, but every stone will be turned over and no secret will be
covered.
God is whom I fear and I will not be
moved. We have all fallen short, and
this journey is impossible to walk alone when chains are bound to our
souls. Any family that is going through
these trials, there is no healing that can take place until we are able to own
up to the damages we have done towards others.
I pray you will make a choice of accountability. You owe it to yourself and also to your
loved ones. May God guide you in your
decision to break the yoke of deception. I pray that you will take that step.
